The Ability to Control

It’s 6:03 and I have three of the four burners on my stove powering on high – because that’s what happens when you aren’t quite sure how long to cook things in your crockpot and the split pea and rice soup you made last night and intended to share today turns to a syurpy goop.

Yesterday was a cool, gray, autumn day – the kind of day that is perfect for curling up with a book and hot drink. Or, in my case to run around in the drizzle taking umbrellas to guests who were caught in the wetness at the museum where I work.

At one point I was standing by the gate under a big umbrella when a couple of teenage kids walked up. The boy and I engaged in a moment of conversation about the weather and he commented about how wet he was. Then as he walked past me I saw that the backpack he was wearing had a sports drink in the mesh pocket. The drink was on it’s side and the lid must not have been on correctly because it was gushing liquid down his back. I quickly called his attention to the fact, and he was completely surprised as he remedied the situation. The amusing part of the whole situation is that I don’t think he realized – even after closing the lid – that the drink was all over his back.

The interaction stayed with me all day. The boy and I had been talking about how wet it was – referring to the rain, something neither of us could control. Yet in reality, the main reason the boy was getting soaked with due to something completely within his power to stop.

And it made me wonder how often do I do that? How often do I simply write something off as being natural and not within my ability to influence when I really could have a say in the matter? So much of what we do is driven by habits we subconsciously have put in place in our lives. What could I be changing to make my life better, more impactful, more in-line with who God created me to be?

The boy yesterday couldn’t see his drink spilling all over his back, but from my perspective it was so obvious. What am I missing because I’m not asking other people to share their perspective and wisdom with me? What am I allowing in my life because I’m set in my ways and not open to changing?

In Proverbs 11:14 it says that In a multitude of counselors there is safety. I want to make sure that my life is characterized by allowing other people to let me know where I need to learn and grow. I want to be the kind of person who not only responds humbly when corrected, but who actually goes and asks for feedback from people who know me best, or work with me often.

It’s 6:21 now and the lunch on my stove has finished cooking. I have a couple sips of coffee left, my house in need of a two minute straightening, and then I’m off to work. Have a blessed day, y’all!

3 thoughts on “The Ability to Control

  1. Vickie Howe says:

    I have been thinking a lot lately of the importance of having people surrounding us who will be willing to watch our backs, and help us make the correct steps forward. This blogpost was a good illustration of what I’ve been thinking about.


  2. Wanda Wozniak says:

    This is really making me rethink my decision to own cats. For years they have controlled my life, and I’ve always felt like I had no choice, but now I’m wondering if it is a choice. I have always felt compelled to fill my home with cats and I just assumed it was part of my nature and my calling in life, but what if the hours of work I spend each day grooming, feeding, reading to, and educating my cats would actually be best spent on something else? This is a whole new possibility for me. Thank you for opening my eyes to the reality that I may need to think through my choices a little bit more, and realize THEY ARE CHOICES! I am not a victim. This is amazing.

    Much Love,

    Wanda Wozniak


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