Being Balanced

Ask anyone in my family and they’ll tell you: I’m goal oriented and driven. And that’s a good thing. Sometimes. It certainly helps me accomplish a lot. Especially with my writing. I have lots of writing goals. It can also get in the way of more important things, though. 
At the beginning of the year I talked with my parents and asked them about areas they thought I could work on improving in and both of them basically said I needed to become more balanced. Instead of running headlong into a project and focusing solely on it, sometimes it’s good to take a step back and let some things go. I was at the point where I would let my other responsibilities slide just to make sure the goals I had set for myself were met. And that’s not cool. 
So, I began making more realistic goals. (And, I’m talking about daily, weekly and monthly goals here. Not necessarily year-long goals because I’m not the best at figuring those out yet although I am working on them.) And I told myself that it was ok if I missed a goal every once in a while, but I didn’t. I kept zooming ahead and somehow fitting my goals in although I have become more balanced. 
Sometimes it can be hard to focus on the big picture when all you see is what’s right in front of you.

Then last week we had tons of company, my best friends were getting married, and I spent the first half of the week being all emotional and the second half of the week being extremely busy and visiting.

It was late Thursday night when I realized I still had 20 minutes left of stuff I had to do to finish my six goals for the day. Now these are the daily goals that I set for myself at the beginning of 2013 and haven’t missed doing since then (except for the week I gave myself off at the end of December). I slowly began separating myself from the crowd so I could escape to my office and finish my goals. And a couple of the girls who I’d been trying to find a time to talk to followed me.

Standing in my office, listening to them talk, I took a deep breath and made the decision: I would let my daily goal slide. In the long run I wouldn’t have any negative effects by missing one of my daily goals in 20 months, and on the other hand, these girls were really important to me and our friendship would be greatly enriched by me spending time with them.

Then, later on that week I also made the choice to let one of my 11 weekly goals slide so I could focus on the people who had come for the wedding.

That might not seem like a big deal to y’all, but it was to me. It was me choosing to put other people and other things above my driven-goal-oriented attitude that I’ve adopted. It wasn’t as hard as I had thought it would be. But it was freeing. And also a little bit scary wondering if this is going to become the new me. It won’t, though, because I won’t let it.

And there you have it folks. Goals are important. Very important and I think everyone would benefit from them. Balance is also important, though, and therefore I’m working on becoming a balanced-goal-oriented person.

A false balance is abomination to the Lord: but a just weight is his delight.
Proverbs 11:1

What about you? Are you goal-oriented? Driven? Balanced? 

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