Character Development – Love Languages

Y’all! I loved getting to read your comments about your personality type, that was a lot of fun. If you haven’t taken the test, it really is an interesting way to find out more about yourself, or in my case to find out more about my character.

I had been all excited about creating a character who was not very me-ish, and when I took the test for Madalyn, it was different from me! Yay! Time to celebrate. Until I realized that the only difference was that she was extraverted and I am introverted. Oh well. At least I know that her love language is different from mine.

This is supposed to illustrate how Madalyn’s love language is a mystery to me… 

What is a love language, you might ask? Well, that’s another tool you can use for character dvelopement. Actually, it’s supposed to be for people, but characters are people, right? A love language is the way in which you receive love. (People actually have a giving love language, too, but we’re just focusing on the receiving part of it today.) 

There are five love languages which are: 
Acts of Service
Quality Time
Words of Affirmation
and Touch
When you do the test you have a series of 30 questions and you have to pick which one describes you the best. At the end you get the results with which ways you feel the most loved. The highest rating you can get is 12 and the lowest is 0. The test is an amazing way to help you understand how your world works better. 
Take my sister for instance. The two of us are great friends but our love languages are almost opposite of each other. There was a period of time I didn’t feel very loved by her because she was showing her love to me through the way she received love, and it didn’t mean anything to me. After we figured out what our different love languages were, my sister began making a conscious effort to show me love by my love languages instead and our relationship improved greatly. (Yep, my sister is amazing.)
And by the way, we talk about receiving love, we’re talking about love between friends, family, etc…, not romantic love (although it works for that, too, but since Madalyn is single there’s no reason to work with that right now). 
Let’s talk about the languages for a moment: Take for instance someone who’s love language is Touch. When a friend comes up and gives them a hug, that makes them feel happy. If they’re a Words of Affirmation person, hearing someone say “You’re doing a great job, I’m proud of you!” means a ton to them. If they’re a Gifts person, then someone giving them a small token of their friendship for no reason is what rocks their boat. 
I tried doing the test for Madalyn today, but I have a problem. I know what my love language is, and I want to make Madalyn different from me so when I did the test I just basically (without trying) answered the questions so she wouldn’t be like me. And I’m not sure if her results are really her. So, I thought maybe, just maybe, some of y’all who have been reading Madalyn’s story can take a moment to think about it and let me know what love language you think describes Madalyn the best! And, you can pick more then one if you feel so inclined. Plus, if any of you want to take the test for you or your character and share your results, I would love to see that! 
Have a great day, y’all! 

4 thoughts on “Character Development – Love Languages

  1. Bekah says:

    My love language is definitely words of affirmation all the way! It totally makes my day when someone gives me encouragement through words. I agree with you; it's super helpful to know the other person's love language so you know what they like the best.

    Hmm…I'd have to think about what Madalyn might be. I'll let you know if I think of anything. 🙂

    His Princess,


  2. Aidyl Ewoh says:

    My Love Language is Words of Affirmation, too! The highest score you can get in anything is 12 and I have an 11 in Words of Affirmation. 🙂 It's also a big one in my giving Love Language, too.


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